"...The problem with culturally constructed standards of appropriate sexual activity is that they are always substantially more narrow than what people would do left to their own personal predilections..."

"...This gets us back to the rock and a hard place notion,  is how do we accept that sex and death are intrinsically connected and therefore prone to  be problematic, without artificially restraining what we declare to be appropriate and not, in so doing, literally devastate a fairly large chunk of humanity these days..."